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DeNiro and Hightower: One-Sided Divorce?

Robert De Niro and Grace Hightower recently made headlines – and not for a happy reason. The famed actor filed for a divorce from his long-time spouse after 20 years of marriage. This is the second time DeNiro has filed for divorce. The first time was about ten years ago. The divorce was never finalized because […]

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Would You Walk Away on Your Wedding Day?

Casey thought her wedding day would be the happiest day of her life. So, on the night before she was to marry long-time love, Alex, she was totally unprepared for the shock of her life. While celebrating with her bridal part, Casey started getting some texts. At first she thought they were hot and sexy […]

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Are You Kidding Me?

“Long before it’s time for Mom to help plan the wedding dress or Dad to give the bride away, it’s time to be raising a future wife in your home. Because wives aren’t born – they are made.” That was the warning author Constance J. Foster gave mothers. And in her 1956 Parents Magazine article […]

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The Marriage Survey

I need your help! So that I can give you the best information, tips, etc. I want to know more about the obstacles, challenges and joys that you experience in marriage. So I created this survey. It’s totally anonymous – so you can really be honest and, if you feel like it, pour your heart […]

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FREE SEMINAR! Ending Marriage’s Bad Rap

FREE Seminar: Ending Marriage’s Bad Rap Shifting the Marriage Paradigm with the Five-Year Marriage Are you getting married…or thinking about it? Are you living together and nervous about taking the BIG next step? Have you been married ten or more years and are wondering where the love went? In today’s fast-paced and always-changing world, traditional marriage […]

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…AND a Honeymoon!

The wedding is over, and it was a beautiful day.  Now Joseph Eagle and I are starting our new marriage…and doing it with a honeymoon! Realistically speaking, and from the perspective of two self-employed people, we had no business taking another (unpaid) week off.  After all, Joseph and I got back from our annual vacation […]

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Wedding#7

What a wonderful wedding day! While Joseph and I have, to-date, have a wedding ceremony to start our new marriage, we don’t usually have a party. However, over the summer a few things happened that were either sad, or made us stop and think. They made us realize that we haven’t been celebrating the good […]

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Apache Wedding Blessing

Last week Joseph and I met with Pattie Painter, the celebrant for our September 22 nuptials. She asked us about different readings, suggested some and also told us we could find others on her Vows of the Heart website. The Apache Wedding Blessing has been part of almost every one of our weddings. Pattie knows it […]

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Negotiations Ain’t Easy!

As Joseph and I are wrapping up this marriage, we’re in negotiations for another one. Yes, we’ve decided to marry again. However, after thirty years, the conversations around our next marriage are different. Actually, every marriage negotiation conversation is different. And difficult. The different part is the easier of the two. We’re different because the […]

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And Ending…and a Beginning

As Joseph and I are planning the end of our marriage, we’ve gotten far enough in our re-negotiating phase to decide to go another five years. We still have plenty to discuss and stuff to work out, but we decided to get married on September 22. Until now, we didn’t know where to have our […]

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My Marriage is Ending

  Recently I was talking to a twenty-something, newly-engaged woman who loves the idea of The Five-Year Marriage. “It keeps things fresh,” she affirmed. And she was correct. A Five-Year Marriage does keep things fresh…and that’s the good part. However, the new beginning follows an old ending. The end of a marriage is always a […]

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Is Romance in the August Air?

Romance is in the air…or is it? August is Romance Awareness Month. Have you noticed? Maybe not. If you’ve been married for any length of time, romance can sometimes fall off the “to-do” list. You know how it is. You get busy, other people’s needs are pressing on you,  you feel stressed – or all […]

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What’s a Five-Year Marriage Like?

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What’s in YOUR Marriage Contract

So many people who have read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm have said, “You included EVERYTHING a couple needs for their marriage contract!” And I thought they were correct. Until yesterday. I was reading the Sunday comics in The Philadelphia Inquirer – my Sunday indulgence. I came across this FoxTrot cartoon by Bill […]

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My Life Shifted…

and So Did My Marriage… “I was going along in my planned direction, and then my whole life just shifted to the right.” That’s how the independent, thirty-something Bethany began explaining her impending career change. But a little more conversation showed that work wasn’t her real problem. Bethany’s troubles started when spouse, Michael, got into […]

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The First Five Years Were Great…

Last week was the annual Victorious Woman celebration, The Girlfriend Gala. Along with all the goodies of silent auction and raffles and happy chatter,  I had a “contest table.” It was dedicated to my book, The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm. After looking at the table, and the book, a woman rushed up to […]

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Fun/Kudos at Annapolis’ Old Fox Books

Last Sunday I was in Annapolis doing a book signing for Five-Year Marriage. The place was Old Fox Books and Coffee House on Maryland Avenue. It’s sort of off the main drag, but located in between St. John’s College and the Naval Academy. and it’s the cutest book shop. It’s the kind of place I’d […]

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Are Single Women Happier?

Wedding season is in full bloom. Thousands of single women are changing their status on FB, Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn. When they do, will they be happier? According to research by Mintel, a leading market intelligence company, maybe not.  And their traditional marriage might be the reason. I’ll explain… For years I saw so many […]

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Marriage, Me, and Barbara Bush

This week I thought a lot about Barbara Bush. First of all, who would have thought Barbara would go before George? Did you, like me, figure – with her indomitable spirit – Mrs. Bush would outlast George by years? But that wasn’t in the cards. Reports from the family said that Barbara, with humor and […]

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Unmasking Your Soul Conversations, Anumami Santos interviews Annmarie Kelly

I was recently interviewed by Anumami Santos, author of Unamsking Your Soul. We recorded the Live Facebook Interview, and you can see it here: https://youtu.be/ItbxZbgxEM4

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The Five-Year Marriage Launched!

Yesterday was the big day! The Five-Year Marriage is officially published! I have to admit, I was a bit nervous. I’ve been talking about – and living – the Five-Year Marriage for a long time. Some have loved the idea and others have hated it. But that was always on a small scale. And I […]

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Ready to Launch!!

You’re invited to the official launch of The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm. It’s on March 3, 4-6pm in Wayne PA. I’ll be giving up some “behind the scenes” stories and reading a little bit. Joseph might even chime in with some of his stories. And then we’ll celebrate with food and wine and, […]

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Valentine Spoons?

Would you want one? I’ll bet you would! Earlier today I was watching the CBS Sunday Morning show. It featured a charming story about the folks who live on Llanddwyn Island, off the coast of Wale. They ditched St. Valentine and, instead, embrace St. Dwynwen’s Day. She’s the Welsh patron saint of lovers (she prayed […]

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No Marriage License Needed?

Are Marriage Licenses on the Way Out? They may be – at least in Alabama! As best as I can figure, the idea started because of an unwillingness by judges to issue marriage licenses to gay couples. If the bill becomes a law, a couple would not apply for a marriage license. Instead, they would […]

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Toilet Paper Wars

Do you have toilet paper wars in your marriage? The View’s Sunny Hostein does. OK, maybe it isn’t a war, but The View co-host spoke recently about her toilet paper habits and annoys her spouse. To a single person, it sounds like toilet paper should be a non-conversation, right? Wrong! Toilet paper can be a […]

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Does Sheldon Have it Right?

Are Relationship Contracts Better for Marriage? The Big Bang Theory makes me laugh out loud, especially when Sheldon starts talking roommate and relationship contracts. More and more, viewers are thinking it’s a good idea. And last night’s episode (Season 11, Episode 10) was right up the Five-Year Marriage alley! Storyline Summary: Like many “real life” […]

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Put a Ring on It? Maybe Not!

Do all the single ladies want a ring on it? In Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” she sings about her ex, who is  jealous because she was with a new man. She tells him it was too bad for him because “if you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it.” The snappy song […]

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Do You Make Yourself Small?

“I had this sort of uncanny ability to make myself as small as possible, like I was a supporting character in my own life,” said singer/actress Mandy Moore about her six-year marriage to Ryan Adams. She says it happened because she lost herself in her troubled relationship and began to doubt her path. Moore isn’t […]

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Unwrapping the Five Year Marriage

Last night I took the wraps off the Five-Year Marriage during the inaugural event at the Pyramid Club in Philly.It was exciting and fun! There were many interested and curious people who wanted to find out about the Five-Year Marriage. It was mostly women, but a few men were there, and the ones who were […]

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Five-Year Marriage Update

People have been asking when it’ll be available, so here’s the latest: The book is finished and is onto the next step: the cover. I got a couple sample covers already, but I’m not happy with any of them. It’s funny…when my first book, Victorious Woman: Shaping Your Challenges into Personal Victories was at this […]

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I Do…Until I Don’t

I Do…Until I Don’t is the new movie written and directed by Lake Bell. She also stars in the movie. In it, a documentary film-maker has become jaded by thoughts of traditional marriage. She thinks it’s outdated [and she’s correct!]. Instead, she thinks marriage should last seven years with an option to renew. The film-maker […]

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How The Five-Year Marriage Got It’s Start

Annmarie’s Humorous Version of the Beginning of the Five-Year Marriage. What do you think about a Five-Year Marriage? How do you think a Five-Year Marriage  would improve a relationship (vs traditional marriage)? I welcome your comments! Annmarie

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The Marriage Gap

When it comes to goals, I’m the thinker. I’m goal-oriented. I like to set goals and makes plans. Joseph is different. A lot of his goals are in his head. He’s not as good at articulated what he wants. So, in our first marriage, and before I figured that out, we would have conversations and […]

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Is a Five Year Marriage a sin?

The Five Year Marriage could be a sin, or at least be against the teachings of the Catholic Church. That’s according to “Rita” who teaches Catholic Pre-Cana Marriage Prep classes. Rita read an advance copy of the book, Five Year Marriage. After she did, Rita and I had an interesting conversation during which she vigorously […]

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Sage Advice from Advice Column

I get a kick out of reading advice columns and, recently, it was a Carolyn Hax column. The title grabbed me: “Reexamine goals with ‘aimless’ husband.” It is about a problem that is pretty common in marriage – unclear expectations. The question is from a successful woman. In her marriage of a couple years, she […]

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Worried About Being an “Old Maid”

Last spring I read an interesting article by Cooking Light’s Amanda Polick about being older and not married. It’s what old timers would have called an “old maid.” I thought about it today. A colleague introduced me to a smart and savvy victorious woman. She wanted to know more about the Five Year Marriage. We […]

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Marriage and Money: Are You on the Right Track?

Marital Finances are one of the most important parts of a marriage partnership. Marriage and money go hand in hand. If a couple works together and plays their cards right, marriage can often be a financial boon. The key is getting on the right track and staying there. In a study done by the Center […]

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Will Gettysburg Fix My Writer’s Block?

Writer’s Block – the curse of anyone who writes anything anytime. And I got it. I really thought that, since I wrote the first draft of Five-Year Marriage a long time ago, this would be easy. Well, writing isn’t easy – good writing, that is. But I didn’t think it would be this hard! Last […]

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No Sound, No Fury, No Marriage

As I was reading author Laura Pritchett ‘s May 2016 article for the New York Times, I wondered: What would have happened if she has a Five Year Marriage? In No Sound, No Fury, No Marriage, Ms. Pritchett described her twenty year marriage of silence. How could she have lived together with the same man […]

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A Marriage Phrase that Pays?

Is there such a thing as a marriage phrase that pays? Pays what? Pays in fostering more love, good feelings, a sense of partnership? While we all like hearing “I Love You” in marriage, it might not be the most important thing you can tell your spouse. In a Huffington Post article, reationships editor Kelsey […]

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In Maine, Restarting the Book

Today I’m sitting in the living room of Windward Cottage#5 in Town Hill. I know this is vacation, but a lot happened recently about The Five-Year Marriage book, so I took the original manuscript (which I copyrighted in 1995!) with me to see what I want to do. What happened is that I’ve been getting […]

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Longest Married Couple

This is a cute story about the longest married couple in the United States. After eighty-three years, the bride still laughs when she reveals that her father didn’t want the marriage so they eloped…so sweet…   (Photo: The Betar Family via USA Today)

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A Different Christmas

I had a different Christmas this year. After years of hosting Christmas dinners for my mom, the parents of a friend, and Joseph’s siblings, things changed. My mom passed, my friend’s parents (with whom we usually spent Christmas Eve, moved to New Mexico with their son, Joseph’s brother adopted his new spouse’s family and he […]

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Could You Be Married FOREVER?

Fifty eight years isn’t forever, but it could seem that way to some people. But not to Arlene Alda, married to actor Alan Alda for 58 years. She shares some tips about getting married and staying married.

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Marriage Isn’t for Him

“Marriage isn’t for me,” wrote Seth Adams Smith shortly after his first wedding anniversary. His post went viral and got a lot of attention. What do you think?  

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Money: One BIG Glitch

Before we got married last month, we worked out the main details of our new marriage. We revisited our values, took stock of our net worth, crafted a long-term view of the next ten+ years, and then focused on the specifics of our next Five Year Marriage. The only think we didn’t do was figure […]

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Just Married!

Wedding #6 almost didn’t happen. For months Joseph and I worked on planning the marriage. By late August, while we were on vacation, everything  was in place. We were excited about going forward together – again. But when it came to planning the wedding, we dragged our feet. It was early September and we had […]

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Marriage Partner or Employee?

What do you want to be in your marriage – the partner or the employee? Don’t see how either one relates to your marriage? Think of a good law firm. There are the partners and the employees. The employees include working attorneys, legal assistants, and administrative assistants. All of them work are expected to work […]

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Giving Up Husband and Wife

“I’ve been marriage twice,” Marnie, a fifty-ish solepreneur, said before admitting, “It was the same both times – great for the first couple years and then they started to get demanding and possessive. I felt strangled.” Yet, when talking business, said she was bogged down with all the detail and administrative work that came with […]

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Spanking for God?

It isn’t the fantasy of Fifty Shades of Gray, classy erotica or SMBD. It’s called Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) and it’s all over the news this week. CDD is supposed to be about the Godly submission to man as head of household. In this a man uses [what I would consider] violence to remind a […]

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What Do You Want in a Marriage?

During our second marriage, Joseph and I hit a “wall” – not unusual in the 5-7 year time. we couldn’t solve it ourselves and I didn’t want to continue it the way it was. However, because of our Five Year Marriage, I was committed to working it out, at least to the end of out […]

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Going in the Same Direction

Since we’re in negotiations for our next marriage, we are meeting about it…supposedly once a week. But it’s really a challenge to make the time. Still, without the communication and the sharing, we would be lost for a direction or a decision about how we want to go forward. Our meeting was yesterday, but we […]

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Why a Five Year Marriage?

Writer Judith Viorst once said, “One advantage of marriage, it seems to me, is that when you fall out of love with him, or he falls out of love with you, it keeps you together until you maybe fall in love again.” I agree! There are times when, during any five year period, you can […]

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End of a Marriage

Seven months from now, Joseph and I will be ending our marriage. This one, anyway. Its’ the 5th year of our 5th marriage…something of a milestone by traditional standards (25 years). Usually, when it comes to the end of a marriage, and we start the next negotiation, we don’t start until May. But things are […]

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