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Do You Make Yourself Small?

“I had this sort of uncanny ability to make myself as small as possible, like I was a supporting character in my own life,” said singer/actress Mandy Moore about her six-year marriage to Ryan Adams. She says it happened because she lost herself in her troubled relationship and began to doubt her path. Moore isn’t […]

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Unwrapping the Five Year Marriage

Last night I took the wraps off the Five-Year Marriage during the inaugural event at the Pyramid Club in Philly.It was exciting and fun! There were many interested and curious people who wanted to find out about the Five-Year Marriage. It was mostly women, but a few men were there, and the ones who were […]

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Five-Year Marriage Update

People have been asking when it’ll be available, so here’s the latest: The book is finished and is onto the next step: the cover. I got a couple sample covers already, but I’m not happy with any of them. It’s funny…when my first book, Victorious Woman: Shaping Your Challenges into Personal Victories was at this […]

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I Do…Until I Don’t

I Do…Until I Don’t is the new movie written and directed by Lake Bell. She also stars in the movie. In it, a documentary film-maker has become jaded by thoughts of traditional marriage. She thinks it’s outdated [and she’s correct!]. Instead, she thinks marriage should last seven years with an option to renew. The film-maker […]

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How The Five Year Marriage Got It’s Start

Annmarie Describes how the twists and turns in her life led to creating and living the Five-Year Marriage.

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The Marriage Gap

When it comes to goals, I’m the thinker. I’m goal-oriented. I like to set goals and makes plans. Joseph is different. A lot of his goals are in his head. He’s not as good at articulated what he wants. So, in our first marriage, and before I figured that out, we would have conversations and […]

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Is a Five Year Marriage a sin?

The Five Year Marriage could be a sin, or at least be against the teachings of the Catholic Church. That’s according to “Rita” who teaches Catholic Pre-Cana Marriage Prep classes. Rita read an advance copy of the book, Five Year Marriage. After she did, Rita and I had an interesting conversation during which she vigorously […]

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Sage Advice from Advice Column

I get a kick out of reading advice columns and, recently, it was a Carolyn Hax column. The title grabbed me: “Reexamine goals with ‘aimless’ husband.” It is about a problem that is pretty common in marriage – unclear expectations. The question is from a successful woman. In her marriage of a couple years, she […]

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Worried About Being an “Old Maid”

Last spring I read an interesting article by Cooking Light’s Amanda Polick about being older and not married. It’s what old timers would have called an “old maid.” I thought about it today. A colleague introduced me to a smart and savvy victorious woman. She wanted to know more about the Five Year Marriage. We […]

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Marriage and Money: Are You on the Right Track?

Marital Finances are one of the most important parts of a marriage partnership. Marriage and money go hand in hand. If a couple works together and plays their cards right, marriage can often be a financial boon. The key is getting on the right track and staying there. In a study done by the Center […]

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Will Gettysburg Fix My Writer’s Block?

Writer’s Block – the curse of anyone who writes anything anytime. And I got it. I really thought that, since I wrote the first draft of Five-Year Marriage a long time ago, this would be easy. Well, writing isn’t easy – good writing, that is. But I didn’t think it would be this hard! Last […]

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No Sound, No Fury, No Marriage

As I was reading author Laura Pritchett ‘s May 2016 article for the New York Times, I wondered: What would have happened if she has a Five Year Marriage? In No Sound, No Fury, No Marriage, Ms. Pritchett described her twenty year marriage of silence. How could she have lived together with the same man […]

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A Marriage Phrase that Pays?

Is there such a thing as a marriage phrase that pays? Pays what? Pays in fostering more love, good feelings, a sense of partnership? While we all like hearing “I Love You” in marriage, it might not be the most important thing you can tell your spouse. In a Huffington Post article, reationships editor Kelsey […]

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In Maine, Restarting the Book

Today I’m sitting in the living room of Windward Cottage#5 in Town Hill. I know this is vacation, but a lot happened recently about The Five-Year Marriage book, so I took the original manuscript (which I copyrighted in 1995!) with me to see what I want to do. What happened is that I’ve been getting […]

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Longest Married Couple

This is a cute story about the longest married couple in the United States. After eighty-three years, the bride still laughs when she reveals that her father didn’t want the marriage so they eloped…so sweet…   (Photo: The Betar Family via USA Today)

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A Different Christmas

I had a different Christmas this year. After years of hosting Christmas dinners for my mom, the parents of a friend, and Joseph’s siblings, things changed. My mom passed, my friend’s parents (with whom we usually spent Christmas Eve, moved to New Mexico with their son, Joseph’s brother adopted his new spouse’s family and he […]

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Could You Be Married FOREVER?

Fifty eight years isn’t forever, but it could seem that way to some people. But not to Arlene Alda, married to actor Alan Alda for 58 years. She shares some tips about getting married and staying married.

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Marriage Isn’t for Him

“Marriage isn’t for me,” wrote Seth Adams Smith shortly after his first wedding anniversary. His post went viral and got a lot of attention. What do you think?  

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Money: One BIG Glitch

Before we got married last month, we worked out the main details of our new marriage. We revisited our values, took stock of our net worth, crafted a long-term view of the next ten+ years, and then focused on the specifics of our next Five Year Marriage. The only think we didn’t do was figure […]

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Just Married!

Wedding #6 almost didn’t happen. For months Joseph and I worked on planning the marriage. By late August, while we were on vacation, everything  was in place. We were excited about going forward together – again. But when it came to planning the wedding, we dragged our feet. It was early September and we had […]

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Marriage Partner or Employee?

What do you want to be in your marriage – the partner or the employee? Don’t see how either one relates to your marriage? Think of a good law firm. There are the partners and the employees. The employees include working attorneys, legal assistants, and administrative assistants. All of them work are expected to work […]

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Giving Up Husband and Wife

“I’ve been marriage twice,” Marnie, a fifty-ish solepreneur, said before admitting, “It was the same both times – great for the first couple years and then they started to get demanding and possessive. I felt strangled.” Yet, when talking business, said she was bogged down with all the detail and administrative work that came with […]

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Spanking for God?

It isn’t the fantasy of Fifty Shades of Gray, classy erotica or SMBD. It’s called Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) and it’s all over the news this week. CDD is supposed to be about the Godly submission to man as head of household. In this a man uses [what I would consider] violence to remind a […]

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What Do You Want in a Marriage?

During our second marriage, Joseph and I hit a “wall” – not unusual in the 5-7 year time. we couldn’t solve it ourselves and I didn’t want to continue it the way it was. However, because of our Five Year Marriage, I was committed to working it out, at least to the end of out […]

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Going in the Same Direction

Since we’re in negotiations for our next marriage, we are meeting about it…supposedly once a week. But it’s really a challenge to make the time. Still, without the communication and the sharing, we would be lost for a direction or a decision about how we want to go forward. Our meeting was yesterday, but we […]

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Why a Five Year Marriage?

Writer Judith Viorst once said, “One advantage of marriage, it seems to me, is that when you fall out of love with him, or he falls out of love with you, it keeps you together until you maybe fall in love again.” I agree! There are times when, during any five year period, you can […]

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End of a Marriage

Seven months from now, Joseph and I will be ending our marriage. This one, anyway. Its’ the 5th year of our 5th marriage…something of a milestone by traditional standards (25 years). Usually, when it comes to the end of a marriage, and we start the next negotiation, we don’t start until May. But things are […]

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