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Is Romance in the Air for YOU?

Take in a romantic sunset with your sweetie

Romance is in the air…or is it? If you’ve been married for any length of time, romance can sometimes fall off the “to-do” list. You get busy, people’s needs are pressing on you, and you feel stressed. Any of those are sure-fire romance-busters. You know it and, usually, you have some control over them.

Yet there is something else – something that is not so noticeable – and it happens by accident. We fall into a pattern called habituation. That means that we get used to something over time and then it becomes not-so-special.

If you’re missing some of that sweet soul music, this Romance Awareness Month is custom-made for revisiting the romance. Here are five ways to get it back:

  1. Thank you. Courtesies come easy for couples when they are “new” together. They say excuse me, please and thank you. Is there something about married familiarity that short-circuits politeness? Maybe so. And this is the month you can bring it back! Make a point to notice what nice things your partner does. Say “thank-you” for each good thing – and say it loud and clear. S/he might be shocked at first, but pleased – everyone loves getting appreciation.
  2. I Love You. When was the last time you told your spouse that you love him? REALLY told him – not just a “love you” as you walk out the door or hang up the phone. Probably a while. So try this:
    • Make it an event: Get your partner’s attention, look him in the eyes, smile, and say “I Love You”
    • Yes, you might get a confused – maybe even a suspicious – reaction at first, but it won’t be for long. If you mean it, it’ll mean something to your sweetie.
  3. Take a walk – together. Go for a walk and hold hands. You used to do that…remember? Romance awareness month is the perfect time to do it again.
  4. Go back to the future. What is something you used to do a lot and now you don’t? Maybe you had a favorite place. Or you had picnic dinners in a local park. Go back and do it again. Pack a sandwich (or get one a local deli), a favorite dessert, and a bottle of wine and head for a local park – maybe one where you can see the sunset. Maybe picnics weren’t your thing. What was…some local free concert, a county fair or a fireworks display? Check your local event schedule, find one and go – just the two of you! 
  5. Have a romantic movie night. Find a movie you both like – it doesn’t have to be gooey sweet or romantic movie. Maybe you both enjoy something funny, or scary, or a classic with Humphrey Bogart (yes, I’m thinking Casablanca). Get a bottle of wine, order a pizza, turn down the lights, sit next to each other and have a good night!

And here’s an extra tip: Dump the technology. Make your time together “device-free.” OK, maybe not all the time, but a specific time – like dinner. Nothing says “you don’t matter” like having your conversation interrupted by a text, post or tweet.

Maybe just you will do it at first, but don’t be surprised if, after a while, he responds in kind. And, when he does, you might be surprised at what happens next – and it could very well be the return of some of those old romantic feelings. The Five-Year Marriage abhors habituation. It’s very design is meant to keep you paying attention.

Like these ideas? You can find more tips and techniques in The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm.

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